Why You’ll Never Be Happy

If you want to enjoy your life, stop trying to be happy. There are so many books and podcasts and courses about finding happiness, you’d think there might be a formula or set of steps you can follow, but here’s the secret they never put on the book jacket: happiness is not a state that…

Sober in Vegas

It was my fourth visit to Las Vegas, but this one was a bit different. This time, I stayed sober. Vegas is not the first place you might think about for a teetotaling weekend. I associate the city with unlimited drinking. No one really cares if you’re walking down the street with a giant cocktail…

10 reasons to take a break from alcohol

I used to drink alcohol enthusiastically and pretty much daily. Now, I drink only on rare occasions. It took me a lot of years and a lot of long breaks to get to almost-not-a-drinker. Given what I’ve learned about alcohol and how it impacts me, I can conclude that not drinking at all is the…

Get comfortable being uncomfortable

Why are you so uncomfortable? Why do we work so hard to avoid discomfort? Within our first few days of existence we’ve figured out that discomfort is part of the deal. To cope with it, we scream our heads off. We have to depend on others to change our diapers, feed us when we’re hungry,…

How I plan healthy meals without losing my mind

Changing your diet can be a lot. I had fallen into some unhealthy eating habits in my forties, like stopping for cocktails and burgers on my way home from work, bingeing on chocotinis at the chocolate martini bar near my apartment, or just picking up greasy Thai food when I didn’t feel like cooking. I…

Mindfulness is impossible. (Did I just stand up?)

Am I standing or sitting? Seriously. I have no idea. I have recently discovered that I live in an almost entirely disembodied state. Let me explain. I have been using the Headspace app for about a year now, and working my way through some of their programs. I’m currently doing the series on managing anxiety….

Why I stopped setting big goals

The bigger your goal, the less likely you are to achieve it. I think this is some kind of law of thermodynamics or immutable force of nature. Okay, maybe not. But it does feel true doesn’t it? Big, audacious goals just don’t seem to get done. Life happens. Plans change. You don’t find the time….

Why I quit Keto and went Pegan(ish)

When trying to decide how to eat, there are competing messages about what a healthy diet is. The division today seems to come down to plant-based versus meat-centric. My own journey has led me to ask: Why not both? Dietary choices are not religious convictions. It’s always a bit perplexing to me when a vegan…

How to do a full mind-body reset

Every January since 2018 (which feels like about 47 years ago), I have given something up. It started with Dry January. I knew I needed to dial back my drinking, and January seemed like a good time to try a bit of teetotaling. That first year, not drinking meant allowing myself all other kinds of…