GenX women run the world

We are a small and cynical generation who started life with rotary dial phones and now upgrade our iPhones at every opportunity. We grew up on HR Pufnstuff, but somehow have the attention span to read all of the George RR Martin books and watch both HBO dragon series. We’ve been going to rock shows…

Finding Purpose, Fighting MEH

As humans, we are drawn to meaning and purpose. This makes us pretty unique among the animal kingdom. I’ve never met a dog who was concerned about making a difference in the world. Our inclination to find, make, and seek meaning also tends to make us a little miserable. The basics of survival never feel…

Ten Years: A Buddhist Perspective

This post is structured around the three Dharma Seals, as is most of life, it seems. Impermanence is permanent. Ten years ago, I was about to start a new job. It was only my fifth new job since the turn of the century. The startup that I had worked for for two years was being…

Becoming Mr. Spock

Matter of fact. That’s how my writing coach described a few sections of my memoir. I’m writing my way through my high school years, and I’m realizing that I really don’t feel any kind of way about it. Teenage girls have big feelings, she told me, as if I should know that. I was a…

Productivity: Why is this so hard?

There’s no way to control this to-do list. It has a mind of its own. Sometimes it races to add to itself and flow off the edge of my dot-grid journal. It won’t be contained by Todoist or Things. It is full of never-do tasks that I look at and decide “not right now, no…

Get comfortable being uncomfortable

Why are you so uncomfortable? Why do we work so hard to avoid discomfort? Within our first few days of existence we’ve figured out that discomfort is part of the deal. To cope with it, we scream our heads off. We have to depend on others to change our diapers, feed us when we’re hungry,…

50 Things I’ve Learned in 50 Years

I’m older, but am I wiser? A half a century is a long time to be alive, but here I am. Given my massive boatload of life experiences, here are some things I think I have learned, or I’m still trying to learn. 1. Parenting is relative. My parents were not good parents. This is…

I’m Just Plumb Wonderful

Life is complicated. Things don’t always go how you want or expect them to. Staying healthy, sane, and solvent can be difficult, if not sometimes impossible. It’s enough to make you a bit cranky. Sometimes you have to laugh. My Grandpa Frank was an infamous grump. He grumbled about everything from wasting water for frivolities…